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  • Jeff Somers 7:50 pm on 2018/08/09 Permalink
    Tags: a man a can a plan, david joachim, diveorce, guide to life, hard to do, , , , on your own again,   

    10 Books to Read Before Getting Divorced 

    Despite the knowledge that many marriages aren’t forever, most who say “I do” assume there partnerships will be forever—otherwise, why bother? But divorce really is the answer, sometimes—the right decision for all involved. That doesn’t mean it won’t also be a painful period of transition.

    Or not. The key is considering your options before you make that fateful choice. While no book can speak definitively to your specific situation, there’s a good chance there’s a book out there that can help you do just that. If you’re thinking your marriage is headed for a divorce, you might benefit from a little reading. The following books will offer perspective, advice, and entertainment, and just might make the decision easier for you, whatever you choose.

    If You’re in My Office, It’s Already Too Late, by James J. Sexton
    First a book to help you determine if your relationship is truly beyond repair. Sexton, a successful divorce lawyer who estimates the number of marriages he’s helped dissolve to number in the thousands, muses on what he’s learned about failed marriages from his work, and offers a guide to figuring out just how far gone your own relationship might—or might not—be. As Sexton explains, expectations (realistic and otherwise) are the foundation of a long-term relationship. You might see yourself in his warm and witty book—and find alternative solutions.

    Reconcilable Differences, by Cate Cochran
    Divorce is often equated with failure, but Cochran offers a different take, examining ten “successfully failed” marriages—including her own—where divorce didn’t mean a cataclysmic breakup, thrown crockery, and psychologically-damaged kids. Instead, these couples found their own way forward and made divorce a positive force in their lives, making up new rules that worked better for them and their kids. This could be just the sort of perspective you need.

    Two Homes, One Childhood, by Robert E. Emery
    If you’ve got kids, you’re going to have to start thinking about them before you tackle the divorce itself. It’s possible to insulate them from the worst of the process, but it takes planning and cooperation—so start the planning now, with this excellent book. Emery shifts the focus from your needs to the needs of your children, helping you and your soon-to-be-former partner develop a plan that will evolve along with your kids, and ensure they get to have a childhood despite the dissolution of your marriage.

    On Your Own Again, by Keith Anderson
    Living with someone can become a habit, and one of the scariest things about divorce is the idea that you’ll once again be on your own. Once you accept that divorce is your only way forward, there’s no time to lose in thinking about how you’re going to clear the rubble and start again. Anderson offers a concise and well-organized approach to putting the past behind you and finding a way to live by yourself—how to find the self-confidence that you can, in fact, rely on yourself to not only survive, but thrive.

    A Man, a Can, a Plan, by David Joachim
    Despite the title, this book is for anyone who has no idea how to cook or shop at a grocery store. If your spouse took care of the groceries and the cooking, a divorce might leave you facing epic takeout bills. This book allows anyone—and we mean anyone—to feed themselves with a modicum of style, without knowing anything at all about fresh produce or advanced cooking techniques. While we can’t recommend staying on this meal plan forever, it’ll get you through those first confusing months when dinner no longer magically appears on the table every evening.

    Getting Back Out There, by Susan J. Elliott
    You may not be divorced yet, but if it’s become inevitable, then jumping back into the dating life probably is too. Dating after you’ve been in one relationship for a long time can be a brutal, eye-opening experience—so start getting yourself mentally and emotionally prepared for the modern dating scene, a battlefield intimidating enough for young folks, and almost paralyzing for someone on the other side of a divorce. Elliot doesn’t just offer platitudes or a strategy for catching someone’s eye, she guides you to consider where and why you went wrong before—and how to avoid making those same mistakes.

    The Sociopath Next Door, by Martha Stout
    Dating will bring you into contact with a lot of new people—and some proportion of those, science tells us, will be sociopaths. Stout’s sensational book argues that there are more sociopaths out there than you think, and they can be difficult to identify, and thus avoid. If you want to avoid dating one (or, maybe, dating one again), Stout helps you to learn how to spot one in the wild, before they buy you a drink and turn on their superficial charm.

    This Isn’t the Life I Ordered, by Jenniffer Weigel
    Television personality Weigel offers a fun, entertaining reflection on her own divorce, and tells how embracing the new layout of her life led her to bigger and better things… eventually. If you’re headed for a split, learn from Weigel’s experience, and set yourself up to take advantage of it as a change, not a failure. Weigel’s journey through her own painful split will prepare you for the challenges and missteps to come with your sense of humor intact.

    Heartburn, by Nora Ephron
    Not only was Ephron a great writer, and not only is this a great novel, but the fact that it’s largely autobiographical should be comforting. If a smart, rich, successful people like Ephron can suffer through a brutal divorce, you don’t have to feel too bad about your own. And if she can come out stronger and wittier for it, maybe you can too. As an added bonus, this story of cookbook author Rachel’s split from her philandering husband is side-splittingly funny.

    The Rabbit Angstrom Novels, by John Updike
    John Updike was a writer with myriad obsessions, and they all came together in the four-book, decades-in-the-writing saga of flawed but fascinating Harry “Rabbit” Angstrom, who attempts to abandon his young family in book one and doesn’t make life any less complicated for himself as the decades rush on. What you end up with is, in large part, one of the most finely-detailed accounts of the ups and downs of a marriage in literary history. Considered as a whole, Rabbit’s race through life offers the sort of minute study of a relationship that will force you to reconsider you own.

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  • Molly Schoemann-McCann 4:52 pm on 2015/07/24 Permalink
    Tags: 101 things to do with ramen noodles, a man a can a plan, , , , cooking away from home, the $5 a meal college cookbook, the healthy college cookbook, the twinkies cookbook, will it waffle?   

    Cheap and Easy Recipes for the College Student 

    For many fledgling adults, making meals during the college years is equivalent to a child’s earliest efforts at crayon drawing (complete with having to explain to others what you just made). For every student who arrives at school and unpacks rice cookers and well-seasoned cast iron skillets, there are ten of us who beam with pride when realizing we can crack an egg into our pot of ramen for added protein. This list is for us—and for the next generation of cooking-impaired high school grads. These books probably won’t help them perfect their Coq Au Vin, but they’ll at least teach them toast isn’t made using magic.

    Will it Waffle?, by Daniel Shumski
    A waffle iron’s fatal flaw has long been that you can only use it to make one thing. One delicious and perfect thing, to be sure, but when storage space is at a premium, is it really worth having an item with such a limited repertoire? Well, all that changed when fearless food pioneer Daniel Shumski looked at his waffle iron and saw more than waffles: he saw potential. From creating such masterpieces as Waffled Bacon (and Waffled Meatballs) to turning leftover Mac and Cheese into the crispy delight known as Revitalized Mac and Cheese, Will it Waffle? offers enterprising cooks the key to creating simple yet delicious meals and snacks using the just the humble waffle iron. Those who discount this as a joke cookbook are making the biggest mistake of their college careers. Yes, even anthropology majors.

    The $5 a Meal College Cookbook: Good Cheap Food for When You Need to Eat, by Rhonda Lauret Parkinson and B. E. Horton
    Whether they’re trying to avoid overpriced and greasy local takeout, or just need a break from the humdrum routine of the cafeteria’s meal plan, students who are on a budget (okay, so, students) will love the quick and easy, delicious, and above all inexpensive recipes in The $5 a Meal College Cookbook. With over 300 recipes for everything from breakfast to late-night snacks (no more eating dry ramen from the package at 3 a.m. because the vending machine down the hall doesn’t take credit cards!), newly away-from-home cooks are sure to discover new favorites (Asian Lettuce Wraps) and remember old standbys (Easy Eggplant Parmesan). This is the perfect cookbook to stick in your kid’s footlocker as she packs for school.

    A Man, a Can, a Plan: 50 Great Guy Meals Even You Can Make!, by David Joachim and the Editors of Men’s Health
    Does the kitchen intimidate your college-bound child? Do they appear to like the idea of eating home-cooked meals, but hate the idea of cooking at home? Then A Man, a Can, a Plan just might be their perfect recipe book. A foolproof guide—right down to its easy-to-clean pages!—to preparing simple but hearty and flavorful dishes (think 50s-Style Creamed Chicken) with a minimum of mess and aggravation, this is the perfect introductory cookbook for beginner chefs who have mastered the can opener and are ready for the next level, as long as it still mostly involves a can opener.

    The Twinkies Cookbook, Twinkies 85th Anniversary Edition: A New Sweet and Savory Recipe Collection from America’s Most Iconic Snack Cake, by Hostess
    College students enjoy meals and snacks that store easily, travel well, and can be prepared with a minimum of fuss and production. They also love irony. Celebrate their appreciation for both with the new edition of the classic The Twinkies Cookbook, which has been updated in celebration of the 85th anniversary of the iconic dessert and is packed with 25 new recipes, both sweet and savory—including a Twinkiefied version of chicken and waffles and Twinkie pumpkin pie. A recipe book built around one of America’s favorite snack cakes? You can’t go wrong with this one.

    101 Things to Do with Ramen Noodles, by Toni Patrick
    Let’s get down to brass tacks: If they’re anything like we were back in the day, college students are short on money, short on time, and long on laziness. They don’t need a fancy cookbook that’s going to teach them how to blanche vegetables and make a perfectly risen soufflé; they need a cookbook that’s going to give them smart, practical tools and advice on how to improve the dishes we all know they’ll actually be making. And those dishes, to a large extent, are going to involve ramen noodles. Patrick’s smart, accessible book is filled with recipes that encourage you to be creative, to learn how to improvise, and, best of all, to add healthy veggies and meats to your ramen dish, making it as nutritional as it can possibly be. 101 Things to Do with Ramen Noodles: the cookbook for the college students we have, not the college students we wish we had.

    The Healthy College Cookbook, by Alexandra Nimetz, Jason Stanley, Emeline Starr, and Rachel Holcomb
    Here it is, the pièce de résistance—a cookbook written by college students, for college students, and featuring quick, healthy, and delicious recipes that can be cooked in a dorm kitchen (or a dorm room). A comprehensive guide for first-time cooks, it includes explanations of basic cookware and cooking terms, background on common herbs and spices, and a guide to shopping for and storing ingredients. Nearly 10 years after its original publication, it has been expanded to include 100 new recipes, including those that can be made on a George Foreman grill. This is the perfect comprehensive starter cookbook for the young cook-to-be, as it features both timeless and innovative recipes, some of which are sure to end up in heavy rotation even after students graduate. Don’t let your college-bound kid leave home without it.

     
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